Women without Husbands

Well, nuts to that. Look, ladies, deciding not to marry for your own well-being is one thing, but it is us you’re not marrying in the process. Your decision is killing us single men — literally.

Single men partake in more risky behavior than married men. We eat badly, smoke more, and avoid doctors’ offices. We die younger. We’re far more likely to wake up in a pile of crumpled newspapers still clutching the tequila bottle we began sipping from two days before.

The reason why is not complicated. We are social animals. Men and women are very different creatures, but we were made for each other. The Catholics call it complementarity — a man and woman, in union and harmony, round each other out.

Men need to be rounded out, too. Take dust. Because our brains take in less sensory detail than a woman’s, we don’t notice dust. Thus, married men tend to live in orderly, dust-free homes, whereas single men, says P. J. O’Rourke, clean up their place about once every girlfriend.

Oh, just admit it, ladies. You need us, too. Sleeping next to a burping, snoring lug of a husband may not be the stuff dreams are made of, but it sure beats sleeping alone. When you hear a prowler rattling the door knob in the middle of the night, who will you send to investigate? Your cat?

I know the Times is eager for a more “progressive” society to take hold — one in which the stodgy traditional marriage is kicked to the wayside — but the fact is that marriage, imperfect though it is, is good for us.

Married people are happier, says the Pew Research Center. They enjoy life more; they enjoy sex more, too. Children raised by married couples fare better. Society fares better. Successful civilizations are built on the stability that traditional marriage brings.

But despite these simple and obvious truths, we keep trying to reinvent our nature. We keep trying to prove there are better ways to fulfill our simple needs; keep trying to leave every option open, so that we can be “free” and “independent” forever.

And we end up alone.

Marriage is the foundation of all stable, civilized societies. We destroy it at our own peril. It’s good for society and it’s good for the man and woman in the marriage.

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Quote-a-palooza

“In the writings of the Ephesians there was this precept, constantly to think of some one of the men of former times who practiced virtue.” – Marcus Aurelius

“I am entirely persuaded that the American public is more reasonable, restrained and mature than most of the broadcast industry’s planners believe.” – Edward R. Murrow

“When the political columnists say ‘Every thinking man’ they mean themselves, and when candidates appeal to ‘Every intelligent voter’ they mean everybody who is going to vote for them.” – Franklin P. Adams

“Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it whether it exists or not, diagnosing it incorrectly, and applying the wrong remedy.” – Ernest Benn

“Sen. Clinton ticked off the issues about which she is ticked off, because she says the Bush administration has failed to deal with them. They include health care, Social Security, Medicare and Iraq. The Bush administration has attempted to address all of these, but Democrats have blocked any progress. It’s an old political trick. You work against success and then blame failure on the president.” – Cal Thomas

“In Congress, Democrats have decided to chip away at the war with various symbolic postures but not to oppose it outright: That way, if things go well, they can muscle in on the credit, but if things go badly, they’ll be able to say they told you so without getting stuck with the blame.” – Mark Steyn

“Our political elite and chattering classes deserve a stiff rebuke for ignoring- and encouraging the public to ignore- the truth: In a global war for the Free World, there is nowhere to run.” – Frank Gaffney

“I find myself arguing with a whole bunch of people on the left who ‘know’ things that aren’t true. I’m both amused and surprised not only at the ignorance out there, but the confidence with which it is bandied about.” – Dinesh D’Souza

“[This] is a world in which facts always bow to feelings. What matters is not so much that you do good, but that you feel virtuous, or perhaps more to the point, are seen to be virtuous.” – Mona Charen

“So now, as the U.S. and its allies work to economically isolate Iran, as a second aircraft carrier heads to the Persian Gulf, as coalition forces arrest Iranian officials suspected of stirring violence in Iraq, what is Russia’s response? Last week, Russian defense minister Sergei Ivanov confirmed that Moscow had sold air defense missiles to Iran. Yes, that’s right. Russia is selling weapons to Iran. It’s selling weapons to a state that is a leading sponsor of terrorism, whose president has vowed to wipe Israel off the map. It is selling these weapons even though the UN has been warning and cajoling and threatening Iran to stop its nuclear program for years. How did Ivanov justify the sale? Simple. It was all part of a contract signed in December 2005. Translation: Business is business, and to hell with the rest of the world. The Russians insisted that the sale doesn’t violate any international agreements. And that the missiles are short-range and purely defensive. But let’s see. What might Iran be defending? Its illegal uranium-enrichment sites? Other nuclear facilities where it is likely to be developing the expertise to build a bomb? And whose forces would be the likely targets of those missiles? The Russians, like the Chinese, issue reassuring pronouncements about opposing Iran’s nuclear march. The Chinese recently called on the Iranians to give a ‘serious response’ to the UN resolution. Yes, harumph, harumph. Serious!… Iran poses a grave nuclear threat. Russia seems intent on giving it cover.” – Chicago Tribune

“Obama is at that stage in Presidential politics which roughly equates to lighting a charcoal grill: You stack the briquettes, pour on the lighter fluid, throw in a match and… whoa! Smoke and fire and heat! Very exciting. But you can’t cook a steak on that.” – Rich Galen

“It’s possible that nothing is going to fix Iraq, but ‘Why can’t we all just get along’ parleys have about as much chance of bringing the factions together and ending Iranian and Syrian mischief as a rabbi has of being elected king of Saudi Arabia.” – Ralph Peters

Jay Leno: Spanish newspapers are reporting that Fidel Castro is in very grave condition, very ill health. In fact, his priest told him yesterday that he will soon be in a better place. And Castro said, ‘I’m going to Miami?’ … It was Castro’s wish to be buried at sea, but, unfortunately, all the rafts are currently in use in Cuba. … Senator Hillary Clinton is on her way back from a fact-finding tour of Iraq. She said although there are many problems in Iraq, she said there are good things about the Iraqi people- like the fact they hang adulterers. … In her first press conference after her trip overseas, Hillary Clinton said she thinks we need to send more men to Afghanistan. The men she wants to send? John Edwards and Barack Obama…. Hillary says that she has gotten hundreds of calls telling her to go on the road and campaign for the next two years. That’s just from her husband Bill. … New Mexico Governor Bill Richardson is running for president. Which is good because every day we have thousands of new Mexicans who enter the country. … Kansas Senator Sam Brownback says he is running. He said he’s going to follow the yellow brick road to the White House. Just watch out for the Wicked Witch of New York! … John Kerry says that he loves cookies so much that he thinks he is the illegitimate son of Cookie Monster. Really? Looks more like the illegitimate son of Herman Munster.

Quote-a-palooza

“In the writings of the Ephesians there was this precept, constantly to think of some one of the men of former times who practiced virtue.” – Marcus Aurelius

“I am entirely persuaded that the American public is more reasonable, restrained and mature than most of the broadcast industry’s planners believe.” – Edward R. Murrow

“When the political columnists say ‘Every thinking man’ they mean themselves, and when candidates appeal to ‘Every intelligent voter’ they mean everybody who is going to vote for them.” – Franklin P. Adams

“Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it whether it exists or not, diagnosing it incorrectly, and applying the wrong remedy.” – Ernest Benn

“Sen. Clinton ticked off the issues about which she is ticked off, because she says the Bush administration has failed to deal with them. They include health care, Social Security, Medicare and Iraq. The Bush administration has attempted to address all of these, but Democrats have blocked any progress. It’s an old political trick. You work against success and then blame failure on the president.” – Cal Thomas

“In Congress, Democrats have decided to chip away at the war with various symbolic postures but not to oppose it outright: That way, if things go well, they can muscle in on the credit, but if things go badly, they’ll be able to say they told you so without getting stuck with the blame.” – Mark Steyn

“Our political elite and chattering classes deserve a stiff rebuke for ignoring- and encouraging the public to ignore- the truth: In a global war for the Free World, there is nowhere to run.” – Frank Gaffney

“I find myself arguing with a whole bunch of people on the left who ‘know’ things that aren’t true. I’m both amused and surprised not only at the ignorance out there, but the confidence with which it is bandied about.” – Dinesh D’Souza

“[This] is a world in which facts always bow to feelings. What matters is not so much that you do good, but that you feel virtuous, or perhaps more to the point, are seen to be virtuous.” – Mona Charen

“So now, as the U.S. and its allies work to economically isolate Iran, as a second aircraft carrier heads to the Persian Gulf, as coalition forces arrest Iranian officials suspected of stirring violence in Iraq, what is Russia’s response? Last week, Russian defense minister Sergei Ivanov confirmed that Moscow had sold air defense missiles to Iran. Yes, that’s right. Russia is selling weapons to Iran. It’s selling weapons to a state that is a leading sponsor of terrorism, whose president has vowed to wipe Israel off the map. It is selling these weapons even though the UN has been warning and cajoling and threatening Iran to stop its nuclear program for years. How did Ivanov justify the sale? Simple. It was all part of a contract signed in December 2005. Translation: Business is business, and to hell with the rest of the world. The Russians insisted that the sale doesn’t violate any international agreements. And that the missiles are short-range and purely defensive. But let’s see. What might Iran be defending? Its illegal uranium-enrichment sites? Other nuclear facilities where it is likely to be developing the expertise to build a bomb? And whose forces would be the likely targets of those missiles? The Russians, like the Chinese, issue reassuring pronouncements about opposing Iran’s nuclear march. The Chinese recently called on the Iranians to give a ‘serious response’ to the UN resolution. Yes, harumph, harumph. Serious!… Iran poses a grave nuclear threat. Russia seems intent on giving it cover.” – Chicago Tribune

“Obama is at that stage in Presidential politics which roughly equates to lighting a charcoal grill: You stack the briquettes, pour on the lighter fluid, throw in a match and… whoa! Smoke and fire and heat! Very exciting. But you can’t cook a steak on that.” – Rich Galen

“It’s possible that nothing is going to fix Iraq, but ‘Why can’t we all just get along’ parleys have about as much chance of bringing the factions together and ending Iranian and Syrian mischief as a rabbi has of being elected king of Saudi Arabia.” – Ralph Peters

Jay Leno: Spanish newspapers are reporting that Fidel Castro is in very grave condition, very ill health. In fact, his priest told him yesterday that he will soon be in a better place. And Castro said, ‘I’m going to Miami?’ … It was Castro’s wish to be buried at sea, but, unfortunately, all the rafts are currently in use in Cuba. … Senator Hillary Clinton is on her way back from a fact-finding tour of Iraq. She said although there are many problems in Iraq, she said there are good things about the Iraqi people- like the fact they hang adulterers. … In her first press conference after her trip overseas, Hillary Clinton said she thinks we need to send more men to Afghanistan. The men she wants to send? John Edwards and Barack Obama…. Hillary says that she has gotten hundreds of calls telling her to go on the road and campaign for the next two years. That’s just from her husband Bill. … New Mexico Governor Bill Richardson is running for president. Which is good because every day we have thousands of new Mexicans who enter the country. … Kansas Senator Sam Brownback says he is running. He said he’s going to follow the yellow brick road to the White House. Just watch out for the Wicked Witch of New York! … John Kerry says that he loves cookies so much that he thinks he is the illegitimate son of Cookie Monster. Really? Looks more like the illegitimate son of Herman Munster.

Quote-a-palooza

“In the writings of the Ephesians there was this precept, constantly to think of some one of the men of former times who practiced virtue.” – Marcus Aurelius

“I am entirely persuaded that the American public is more reasonable, restrained and mature than most of the broadcast industry’s planners believe.” – Edward R. Murrow

“When the political columnists say ‘Every thinking man’ they mean themselves, and when candidates appeal to ‘Every intelligent voter’ they mean everybody who is going to vote for them.” – Franklin P. Adams

“Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it whether it exists or not, diagnosing it incorrectly, and applying the wrong remedy.” – Ernest Benn

“Sen. Clinton ticked off the issues about which she is ticked off, because she says the Bush administration has failed to deal with them. They include health care, Social Security, Medicare and Iraq. The Bush administration has attempted to address all of these, but Democrats have blocked any progress. It’s an old political trick. You work against success and then blame failure on the president.” – Cal Thomas

“In Congress, Democrats have decided to chip away at the war with various symbolic postures but not to oppose it outright: That way, if things go well, they can muscle in on the credit, but if things go badly, they’ll be able to say they told you so without getting stuck with the blame.” – Mark Steyn

“Our political elite and chattering classes deserve a stiff rebuke for ignoring- and encouraging the public to ignore- the truth: In a global war for the Free World, there is nowhere to run.” – Frank Gaffney

“I find myself arguing with a whole bunch of people on the left who ‘know’ things that aren’t true. I’m both amused and surprised not only at the ignorance out there, but the confidence with which it is bandied about.” – Dinesh D’Souza

“[This] is a world in which facts always bow to feelings. What matters is not so much that you do good, but that you feel virtuous, or perhaps more to the point, are seen to be virtuous.” – Mona Charen

“So now, as the U.S. and its allies work to economically isolate Iran, as a second aircraft carrier heads to the Persian Gulf, as coalition forces arrest Iranian officials suspected of stirring violence in Iraq, what is Russia’s response? Last week, Russian defense minister Sergei Ivanov confirmed that Moscow had sold air defense missiles to Iran. Yes, that’s right. Russia is selling weapons to Iran. It’s selling weapons to a state that is a leading sponsor of terrorism, whose president has vowed to wipe Israel off the map. It is selling these weapons even though the UN has been warning and cajoling and threatening Iran to stop its nuclear program for years. How did Ivanov justify the sale? Simple. It was all part of a contract signed in December 2005. Translation: Business is business, and to hell with the rest of the world. The Russians insisted that the sale doesn’t violate any international agreements. And that the missiles are short-range and purely defensive. But let’s see. What might Iran be defending? Its illegal uranium-enrichment sites? Other nuclear facilities where it is likely to be developing the expertise to build a bomb? And whose forces would be the likely targets of those missiles? The Russians, like the Chinese, issue reassuring pronouncements about opposing Iran’s nuclear march. The Chinese recently called on the Iranians to give a ‘serious response’ to the UN resolution. Yes, harumph, harumph. Serious!… Iran poses a grave nuclear threat. Russia seems intent on giving it cover.” – Chicago Tribune

“Obama is at that stage in Presidential politics which roughly equates to lighting a charcoal grill: You stack the briquettes, pour on the lighter fluid, throw in a match and… whoa! Smoke and fire and heat! Very exciting. But you can’t cook a steak on that.” – Rich Galen

“It’s possible that nothing is going to fix Iraq, but ‘Why can’t we all just get along’ parleys have about as much chance of bringing the factions together and ending Iranian and Syrian mischief as a rabbi has of being elected king of Saudi Arabia.” – Ralph Peters

Jay Leno: Spanish newspapers are reporting that Fidel Castro is in very grave condition, very ill health. In fact, his priest told him yesterday that he will soon be in a better place. And Castro said, ‘I’m going to Miami?’ … It was Castro’s wish to be buried at sea, but, unfortunately, all the rafts are currently in use in Cuba. … Senator Hillary Clinton is on her way back from a fact-finding tour of Iraq. She said although there are many problems in Iraq, she said there are good things about the Iraqi people- like the fact they hang adulterers. … In her first press conference after her trip overseas, Hillary Clinton said she thinks we need to send more men to Afghanistan. The men she wants to send? John Edwards and Barack Obama…. Hillary says that she has gotten hundreds of calls telling her to go on the road and campaign for the next two years. That’s just from her husband Bill. … New Mexico Governor Bill Richardson is running for president. Which is good because every day we have thousands of new Mexicans who enter the country. … Kansas Senator Sam Brownback says he is running. He said he’s going to follow the yellow brick road to the White House. Just watch out for the Wicked Witch of New York! … John Kerry says that he loves cookies so much that he thinks he is the illegitimate son of Cookie Monster. Really? Looks more like the illegitimate son of Herman Munster.

Feast of Saint Francis de Sales

Today is the feast of one of my favorites Saints, Francis de Sales. He’s the author of one of the most influential spiritual works, The Introduction to the Devout Life, enjoyed by Catholics and Protestants alike. Written to encourage the faithful to live out God’s Will for them, regardless of their state in life and in keeping with their state in life, it’s had a great impact on countless live through the centuries.

Francis didn’t merely argue that all people were called to holiness; he argued that each must live it out in a different manner as befit their state in life. While it may seem obvious to us now that a priest had a different calling to live out the faith than a lay person, at times through Church history the idea creeps in that only those in religious life are called to holiness. Francis demolished that idea and showed how people could live out holiness regardless of their state in life.

He was ordained as Bishop of Geneva, but due to the strong Calvinist influence at the time, Geneva was fiercely anti-Catholic. So, he published a series of letters, called The Catholic Controversy, which succeeded in winning many back to the Church.

He is a Doctor of the Church, meaning his writing are recognized as timeless and having values to all Christians regardless of where or when they live. He is the patron saint of the Oblates of Saint Francis de Sales, the Catholic Diocese of Wilmington, Salesianum School, writers, journalists, deaf people, and teachers, among many others. (Given that there is no patron saint of bloggers as yet, we might look to him for guidance as we blog.)

More about Saint Francis de Sales:
WikiPedia
Catholic Encyclopedia
Catholic Forum
Catholic.org

UPDATE: Introduction to the Devout life is available in its entirety for free on the Internet, courtesy of DeSales University.
Hat Tip: Amy Welborn