Life Lessons

Duffy has a post on what he’s learned in 35 years. (Should we wish you a happy birthday?)

Here’s a few I’d like to comment on:

7. Never pull a nail with a pair of plyers

This is true if you hope to the use the nail again. Otherwise, have at it.

12. If you’d rather go to work than the dentist, your job isn’t that bad.

I’ve actually never minded the dentist, but my last visit was somewhat painful. The dentist (who I’d never seen before despite going to this dentist’s office since I was a kid) was rough and absolutely no chair-side manner at all.

15. Only enemies tell the raw, unvarnished truth. Friends, family and lovers are tangled in obligations that make such truth too difficult.

I’ve been blessed to have the sort of friends who were willing to tell me the truth, even if they knew it would hurt me. Maybe due to my tendencies toward brusqueness, they feel they can be honest with me no matter the situation. I’ve become a much better person for having friends like this.

It also depends on what you’re trying to find out. With someone’s enemies, you have to take what they say about a person with a grain of salt. However, if someone’s friend tells you a fault you know it’s true since they clearly like the person in spite of that fault. In addition, they may tell you things they don’t see as a big deal, but actually are, that they misjudge due to their friendship. Friends are often a private investigator’s best source for dirt on a person.

21. Most atheists don’t disbelieve in God so much as they personally dislike him. (Orwell)

This is very true. I have two friends who I used to work with. Both claim to be atheists. One will take any chance he gets to deny God and attack religion. The other has helped me look for meatless dishes on a restaurant menu on Fridays. I’ve always felt the first one believes in God but doesn’t like to burdens that belief would require of him so he lashes out against Him, rather than face up to the implications of that belief.

23. Women make decisions based on emotion and rarely on logic

So. Very. True. I’m reminded of a song from “My Fair Lady”, “Why Can’t a Woman Be More Like a Man?”:

Why is thinking something women never do?
And why is logic never even tried?

32. There’s a huge difference between your wife and your girlfriend

Every married man I’ve ever spoken to has told me this.

33. Everyone is a hypocrite in some form or fashion

This is actually a post I’ve been working on in my head for a while: why hypocrisy is not wrong when done with the acknowledgement that is is also wrong for you not to live up to the standards you are espousing.

34. Girls don’t like videogames and never will

Actually, I’m the one in my relationship who doesn’t like video games. I’ve never played them much, but she really enjoys them.

2 thoughts on “Life Lessons

  1. No, no birthday for me of late. Just been ruminating on things due to personal circumstances.

    The nail/pliers thing is something I learned the hard way when I was about 7 or so. Nail came loose and pliers met face very hard. Chipped a tooth. Also why dentist comment immediately follows

    The wife/girlfriend thing is not only about how she is different but how men view things differently once they’re married.

  2. No, no birthday for me of late. Just been ruminating on things due to personal circumstances.

    The nail/pliers thing is something I learned the hard way when I was about 7 or so. Nail came loose and pliers met face very hard. Chipped a tooth. Also why dentist comment immediately follows

    The wife/girlfriend thing is not only about how she is different but how men view things differently once they’re married.

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